This is an often quoted Scripture, but not an often well lived out Scripture. Lets start a revolution that changes all of that!
Yesterday we spoke about how to receive feedback into your life... today we will look at how to give feedback.
- The motive for giving feedback must originate from your love for the person and your desire to see that person grow
- Always ask permission before offering your feedback. An example ask would go something like, "Jim, if you would like, I have some feedback for you from when you ...". You simply put it out there that you have feedback and then leave it up to the other person to ask you if they would like to hear it.
- Do give feedback face to face. (I have learnt the hard way that e-mails can be read the way the person is feeling at that moment!)
- Don't overload the person with too much feedback. One or two points is sufficient for the person to go back and work on. anymore than this can just feel overwhelming.
- Sandwich the feedback with genuine praise and encouragement. (we tend to remember negatives 4X more than we do positive feedback).
- Some people do not like receiving the feedback immediately. Perhaps a day or two after the event would be more appropriate (unless of course their behaviour is inappropriate).
- Feedback should be given within 2 weeks of the event or the person won't remember what you are talking about.